From which shore?

There is a difficulty when talking of non-duality. For a start non-duality cannot be talked about so any attempt is only a pointing towards the truth and never the truth in itself.

I am presented with the dilema - which perspective should I talk from. Most books and websites on non-duality or Advaita talk from the non-dual, after the realization perspective, as if to draw the seeker onward; the carrot before the donkey concept ( please don't take that personally or literally). That's fine but there's a danger that the listener/reader is hearing from a dualistic 'me' perspective and left with their mind trying to understand and this can bring in more and more concepts - of what life is imagined to be like after self relization.

Quite often, and in at least one page of my website I talk about me the person who was seeking. I do this so it's easier for the seeker to relate and feel at one with this person , and his story, who stepped over the line. If you relate to me and my story and also know that I understand, then it's easier to travel 'with' me rather than to feel all alone out there.

If I have crossed a broad river by wading through the turbulent water, look back and see you on the other shore, then it's of little comfort to say to you it's ok you can do it if you didn't watch me cross in the first place. But, if I return through the water and stand by your side then you are more likely to walk with me as I cross - we are doing it together.

In my last days before understanding, there was a looking and questioning of what I expected life to be after the understanding and I honestly didn't have a clue. Sure there had been many thoughts and concepts but the truth was I just didn't know. For me the knowing soon followed. I say this because it's important to be very honest in you search.